I’ve never been a big proponent of Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve received my share of hearts, chocolates and flowers and I was always appreciative. However, I’m greedy. I don’t want my lover to tell me one day out of 365, to be his love or his heart. I want to know that I’m cared about EVERY day and I enjoy ALL tokens of affection—not just flowers and candy. This is probably one of the reasons why I write and read romance novels. I want what they have!
In romance novels, the couple behaves as if they’re in love everyday—not only when it’s commercially cool to buy flowers and candy. Couples in romance novels exchange glances, touches, inside jokes, and body fluids often—not just on Valentine’s Day. They argue, cry, throw things and then make up– not just on Valentines’ Day. And I love it! They may have conflict and issues to resolve, but ultimately, they find their way back to love.
Naysayers may think that I’m living in a fantasy world or that I’m wishful thinking — love and affection every day only happen in the movies and romance novels. But that’s okay. According to Romance Writers of America, in 2007 romance fiction became the largest share of the consumer book market with $1.375 billion in estimated revenue. So hello …I’m not the only one who wants their love everyday!
I have another thought. (Go ahead say it: oh joy)
Romance and love are what we make it. In our busy lives, it’s hard to be romantic every day, but it CAN happen. You invested a hell of a lot of time pursuing your love interest, now perhaps it’s time to work just as hard to keep them. More important, we don’t have to wait until Valentine’s Day to express affection or undying love and devotion.
If you’re single, give yourself flowers, a hug and a sizzling, romantic novel and then call up a friend. (wink) If you’re married or have a significant other, go ahead and buy the flowers on Valentine’s Day. (You may not be able to get in the house if you don’t.) I have a girlfriend who insists that her husband buy her flowers and send them to the job. (That’s a whole other blog.)
But, also buy (or expect) the flowers, candy, jewelry, theatre tickets, a new car (hey, thought I throw that in there) because your significant other made you smile on a bad day. Buy them because your partner suggested hiring an accountant to do your taxes this year, instead of trying to do them yourself, and saved your family hundreds of dollars. Buy them candy because you want to stuff your face together while watching an old movie or playing cards. 🙂 Moreover, don’t forget to give a touch, hold hands or steal a kiss often.
Whatever you do, don’t wait for ONE day to show the person you’ve spent so much of your life with–or maybe a little time with–that they mean something more to you than the average person. In the words of Otis Redding, “Try a Little Tenderness.” You may be surprised by the reaction and who knows, you may create enough sizzle to write your own romance novel. 😉