Rejection: So, does that REALLY mean it’s over?

No one wants to receive a Dear John, Dear Jane, or Dear Writer letter. Whether it’s from an ex-lover, an agent or an editor, rejection is rejection and it’s painful.

There are varying degrees of rejection. Some can actually inspire you, while others can be downright hurtful. Yet no matter how good or bad they are, our egos and confidence take a beating. Initially, we may want to:

• Scream and rip the manuscript to shreds
• Start revising the book–at that moment–from chapter one.
• Burn the rejection letter along with the other 50 stuffed in the desk drawer
• Become BFFs with Jose, Jack or the Captain.
• All of the above or a few of your own creative choices

Yes, I know. It hurts like hell.

But the next day, after the hangover and putting out the fire we started in the trashcan, we grab our manuscript, and tape it back together. Then we try to behave like the professionals we are, and take this rejection as a sign of getting closer to our dream. And remember, the most successful authors were rejected. I might add, some none too nicely.

I ran across an interesting blog, “One Hundred Famous Rejections,” complete with the blogger’s editorial comment(at the end in italics) that I thought could make any aspiring writer struggling with rejection, hopeful. (I only saw 78, listed. However, I’m sure they’ll have a complete list in no time.)

Here are a few from their list. I urge you to look at the rest.

Famous Rejection #1: F. Scott Fitzgerald

F. Scott Fitzgerald, considered to be one of the best American writers, wrote The Great Gatsby in 1922. While the book is now ranked #2 in Modern Library’s 100 Best Novels of the 20th Century, he once received a rejection letter that read: “You’d have a decent book if you’d get rid of that Gatsby character.” I believe history would beg to differ.”

Famous Rejection #43: Nora Roberts

Bestselling romance novelist Nora Roberts has written over 209 novels! We think that deserves repeating. Two hundred and nine novels, which spent a combined 861 weeks on the New York Times Bestseller List. But, before all that, there was rejection.

[Nora Roberts] submitted her manuscripts to Harlequin, the leading publisher of romance novels, but was repeatedly rejected. Roberts says, “I got the standard rejection for the first couple of tries, then my favorite rejection of all time. I received my manuscript back with a nice little note which said that my work showed promise, and the story had been very entertaining and well done. But that they already had their American writer. That would have been Janet Dailey.” Nora found a home with Silhouette books, and since then romance has never been the same.

Famous Rejection #69: Louisa May Alcott

“Little Women” would never have seen the light of day if Louisa May Alcott let rejection hold her back.The editor of Boston’s The Atlantic magazine, James T. Fields, told Alcott’s father, “Tell Louisa to stick to her teaching; she can never succeed as a writer.” As far as rejection goes, that one is pretty harsh! Fortunately, Louisa May Alcott never took it to heart. Instead, she told her father: “Tell him I will succeed as a writer, and some day I shall write for the Atlantic!” Not long after, she did!”

Rejection #72: Jacqueline Susann

“Novelist Jacqueline Susann is famous for her book Valley of the Dolls, which sold over 30 million copies. She’s also known for a particularly nasty rejection letter. Editor Don Preston initially wrote this about Susann’s initial manuscript:

“…she is a painfully dull, inept, clumsy, undisciplined, rambling and thoroughly amateurish writer whose every sentence, paragraph and scene cries for the hand of a pro. She wastes endless pages on utter trivia, writes wide-eyed romantic scenes that would not make the pages of True Confessions, hauls out every terrible show biz cliché in all the books, lets every good scene fall apart in endless talk and allows her book to ramble aimlessly…. most of the first 200 pages are virtually worthless and dreadfully dull and practically every scene is dragged out flat and stomped on by her endless talk… I really don’t think there is a page of this manuscript that can stand in its present form. And after it is done, we will be left with a faster, slicker, more readable mediocrity.” Wow. Now that’s a rejection!”

Famous Rejection #76: Chinua Achebe

“Chinua Achebe’s “Things Fall Apart” has been considered a milestone in modern African literature written in English, and is one of the first to receive global acclaim. It has sold over 8 million copies worldwide, been translated into over 50 languages, and was selected as Time Magazine’s 100 Best English-language Novels from 1923 to 2005. And, it too, was rejected: It was sent to several publishing houses; some rejected it immediately, claiming that fiction from African writers had no market potential. Finally it reached the office of Heinemann, where executives hesitated until an educational adviser, Donald MacRae – just back in England after a trip through west Africa read the book and forced the company’s hand with his succinct report: “This is the best novel I have read since the war”. In 1958, the publisher published 2,000 hardcover copies, and the rest is history.”

Lesson in all this?

If and when you get another disappointing ”Dear Writer” letter, take another glance at some of the most famous authors who had their work handed back to them. And remember, they prevailed. We will too.

And one more reminder. Stay true to you and your book. F. Scott Fitzgerald didn’t take out Jay Gatsby, did he? If he had, we would have been reading “The Great Whathisname.”

Chin up and keep writing because it only takes one YES.


19 thoughts on “Rejection: So, does that REALLY mean it’s over?

  1. Well put. It’s such a daunting task to overcome rejection and continue writing, but I really love the way you managed to bring all of these great writers together because of it.

    • nettrobbens says:

      Thanks so much for commenting! Yes, rejection can knock the wind out of us, and make us doubt every word we attempt to write. And while I can’t take credit for compiling all this great information, I will say, I selected the ones from the list that I thought would help others, no matter what genre they write.


  2. Reblogged this on BraveSmartBold and commented:
    Another WordPress writer gives beautiful insight into the rejection process. There’s no need to add more to an already wonderfully written post.

  3. Jaye Marie Rome says:

    Hi, Nett…such a good point…it only takes one “yes”. Kathryn Stockett got 65 rejections before The Help was published. And we all know what happened then!

    Keep plugging away…we’ll all get there!

    • nettrobbens says:

      Hi Jaye,

      So, true! Kathryn Stockett is definitely a great example. I was surprised, but in a way, pleased that so many “famous” authors were on that list. It gives us hope. And like you said, we will all get there!

  4. coastalmom says:

    This was amazing! I am bookmarking it and coming back to read it a few more times when I get home from work and am not running out the door but had to come on and just get a peek cuzzz i hate missing your thoughts for the day! love it!!!

    • nettrobbens says:

      Thank you so much for those kind words! I hope the post gives a lift to anyone in need of inspiration and courage to keep going.


  5. aprilkerley says:

    This is a very inspirational post. My older brother got a multitude of rejections and then ~wham~ within a period of a month he’d won a local short story contest, got an agent and his first novel was put up for auction. Now he’s had eight books published and has contracts for a few more. The difference between an unpublished writer and a published one is perseverance. Getting a rejection letter doesn’t mean to stop trying; it means to keep trying harder. 🙂

    BTW, I love your site…lots of good reading material here.

    • nettrobbens says:

      Thank you so much so your kind words! But I have to say your brother’s story is more inspirational because he’s confirmation that we all can “get the call.” That is so awesome! You hit the nail right on the head too, the only difference between being published and unpublished is perseverance. Thanks for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it so much!


  6. babzpiper says:

    Thanks for the encouragement to keep on keepin on!

  7. Kathleen says:

    I think every writer should be reminded of this about once a month! I have friends who have quit after one or two or three rejections. It’s taught me that I need to keep trying! Thanks!

    • nettrobbens says:

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting Kathy! I like your idea of a monthly reminder and your attitude! It’s soooo hard to stay upbeat and focused after a rejection. But we have to push each other.


  8. […] couple of this week’s blogs had a few messages of inspiration, and overcoming obstacles, which I hope helped the writer, the poet, the artist, the mother, the accountant and anyone who […]

  9. Rucy Ban says:

    God! I needed this right now!

  10. Love this! A good reminder to all of us, keep posting and success!

  11. […] by Meredith Maran, features 20 well-known authors who share what keeps them writing. Just as the rejection letter of well-known authors can serve as a form of encouragement, so will these snippets of […]

Tell me something good!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s